Some Suggestions for Improving Your Response Rate
Everybody is different, and some people may find it very easy to begin
corresponding with many different women, while other people have a much
more difficult time. While some reasons can be obvious, others are not,
and it never hurts to list them in the hopes that it might help some of
our clients. So, from my personal as well as professional experience, I
offer these pieces of advice:
Be Realistic.
This is the most important part, and usually the most overlooked. Have you ever
met anyone who says he is a below-average driver? No, of course not. Everyone is
above average. But, statistically, of course, this is impossible. But this is the
same phenomenon, except in dating. Everyone may have heard of one or two situations
where a much, much older man was happily and sincerely married to a much younger
lady, and while they may know that this is uncommon, they always think they can be
another exception, too! And yes, it may happen. But, if you do this, you have to
expect to have your share of disappointments along the way. A man who writes to
ladies who are no more than 10 years younger than he will receive the highest
percentage of replies. With greater than a 15 year difference, you should realize
that even a 20% or so reply rate is pretty good.
Also, if the lady is very attractive or desirable in some way, she may be receiving
a great many letters, so she can be more selective about to whom she writes. The
best approach is to select a nice mix of ladies -- pick women that you find interesting
and with whom you have some things in common, but don't aim "too" high, about ten or
so to begin with, and write an informative, honest letter. It's okay if you send the
same letter for the first time, but please be certain to make all future letters
unique.
Photos.
You've seen at least one photo of her and have an idea of what she looks like, so you
should be able to understand that she's curious, too. So many men don't send any
photos with their letters, and then they wonder why they receive so few replies.
Some nice ladies will write back, but you can be sure they'll ask for a photo in their
reply. That doesn't mean they're shallow -- they just want to know who it is that's
writing them. Two photos are best -- one more formal, and one casual (but not TOO
casual) is usually the best combination.
Meeting.
Be prepared to meet them. After about three months, most letter correspondence
begins to slow down a little because by that time most parties have learned the
most important facts about each other and have exchanged some friendly
conversation. Many ladies have been through this before -- writing to someone who
seems very sincere, but then slowly drifts away after several months for no
reason. After a while, a nice lady can become very discouraged by this. So, we
suggest not to start writing unless you expect to be able to travel within 3-6
months to meet them. It's also a good idea to write to women in the same area, or
even the same city if possible. That way, you can meet several ladies at one time
without having to worry about traveling throughout the CIS during your vacation,
using up time in a train or in airports that you should be spending getting to know
someone! We offer personal tours in each of our major
cities for just this reason.
Languages.
Make a note of each lady's language abilities. If a language isn't listed at all,
you can expect her to know nothing more than, at most, a few phrases. Our ratings
go from 1 - 5, with 1 being the lowest rated score, going up to 5, which is
functional fluency. Since English is commonly taught in schools throughout
Europe, Russia, and the CIS, many ladies have at least some level of skill in it.
Furthermore, some women may know another European language, or even two, since
language learning is a much more directly useful skill in the working world in
Russia and the CIS than it is in most English-speaking countries. Seriously
consider paying a little extra to have your letters translated
so you can be certain you'll understand each other. If you're especially close to
someone, you might want to consider English lessons -- many of our agencies have
special offers for this so write us if you're interested in more information.
This will make your future meeting easier, and go a long way to show her how much
you care, and how serious you are.
Paying for Letters.
After you write to a lady using our automated system from her personal profile page,
the system is set by default for you to pay for her reply. Of course, this can be
changed, but we strongly suggest you don't, because it will greatly reduce the number
of replies you receive. Not because these women care only about money, but the
simple realities of life in Russia and the CIS don't permit for these women to
have the extra money it would take to pay for her correspondence. So we ask that you
be a gentleman and don't ask her to pay for her replies to you. The little things
really do matter most.
Gifts.
If your correspondence with someone has become quite serious, and you've written for
some time, or if it's a special day (International Women's Day, her birthday), or
even if you just want to make a very strong impression, you might want to consider
sending her some flowers, or a small gift with a tender message
in a card for her. It will absolutely make her day, and she'll have something else
to remind her of you every day, whenever she looks at your gift.
Tactics.
If you want to try something a little different, or if you've written to some ladies
and you haven't had as many replies as you'd have liked, maybe it's time to consider
trying something a little differently the next time. One good suggestion would be to
look a little deeper in our photo album. The most popular
women are listed first, which means that it can be very easy for a very nice lady to
get lost in the crowd. We have over 17,000 profiles, and most of our clients don't
look past the first 10 or so pages. Many of these other ladies are very, very nice,
beautiful, and have as much to offer as anyone else. But, the competition will be
less, so your letter won't be received along with 10 others, and you're more likely
to receive the attention you deserve.
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